2016.
What exactly is a date? The 1950's driving to go see a movie
and being back home by 11? Or the 2000s hanging out together at the park eating
ice-cream or down the arcade just to be in each other's company.
2016? What exactly is a date in 2016, and I'm not talking
about going to get a cheeky nandos. Nor am I talking about having your date
broadcasted on snapchat for your love news reports.
I've always been a girl who likes creature comforts, so a
perfect date for me would be to come over, watch some movies, bake cakes
together and order a takeaway. Pretty chill day right?!? Or that's what I
thought.
But I want to open up a question, this is for everyone
reading this right now. When has it become acceptable for people to assume
going to someone's house means having sex? Where and how was you raised to
assume that? To expect something that has not been offered?
Now your all probably wondering how I know this. Well this
was me a couple of months ago.... And after this "date" finished,
without getting what they had expected, I haven't heard from the person
since.
Which made me think about the actual characteristics of
people. And let's not forget after five months speaking you still didn't know
my name or could get it right.
As we all do, we sit with our friends and discuss things
that have happened, and then I thought this definitely should be a blog post.
The things is I know polite people exist, but it comes to a
point where I wonder how can you put on a pretence just to get in a bed? Or get
your **** wet? And it comes down to self esteem and morals no?
So let's start over. When I think about first dates, I think
personally it is about getting to know one another, our likes and our dislikes.
What I hope for from a person is common decency, manners and politeness.
Talking about interests we share, and values we may hold. You know getting to
know each other intellectually before physically.
A date doesn't need to be fancy nor extravagant. It's the
little things that count right?
So I think what I'm trying to say is first dates should be
fun and chill without any hidden expectations or persuasions.
Can we have a little bit of what the older generation had.
Without constant interruptions of ping noises from your iPhone and paying
attention to what's right in front of you.
Let's try and do it old-school, and maybe starting out as
friends could turn into something more. These times relationships don't last
five minutes and it's sad that our generation is so lost within this society. I
think the older generation know something we don't know. Maybe we can all learn something from them.
xx
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